Autism Big Give Day

I’m supporting the Big Give for Autism on September 17, 2015.  Here is our story:  

Many of you know my son was diagnosed with high functioning Autism in March.  This was a huge step in helping him develop and move forward in life.  A lot of people are still in the dark about Autism and think things like “why do you have your son labeled”, “He seems normal” or “You shouldn’t label him, it will follow him forever”.  Yes, to most people he “seems” normal, and that is why he is high functioning but he has his own hurdles to over come.  Yes, Autism will be with him forever and not because I had him tested but because it is part of who he is.  What does this mean?  My son is special and unique like every other kid, sure right now he has a slight advantage in the academic arena but I can’t say if his advanced level is because he is autistic or if it is because I have been teaching him since the moment he was born.  I heard things like “why are you doing flashcards, he is just a baby” and “you should let him be a kid”.  Well, in my mind, babies come into this world with all types of knowledge and unless we as parents harness it from the beginning it gets lost as they get older.  So, yes I was the mom who was teaching her newborn colors, letters, shapes and so on.

Let’s get back to Autism.  Some people think it should be hush hush and something to be ashamed up but my little guy has far grater things in life he will need to deal with as he gets older and having the knowledge of where to start helping him cope with someone the different aspects is key to helping him have a happy normal childhood.   Before we started working with him on social integration by sending him to pre-school he was the child that would hyper-focus on trains for hours, not paying attention to anything or anyone around him.  He didn’t want to interact with other kids and if more than 3-4 kids were around he would go into his bubble and do his own thing.

Our newest hurdle is screaming, the blood curdling scream that makes you go cold.  If someone is in his way, blocking him or too close to him he will freeze and scream bloody murder until they move.  There have been times he has been bullied at the playground and he doesn’t hit back he just looks at the kid blankly and lets out the terrifying scream, you know like the ones you hear in the horror films just before the big scary scene.  Before I can get to him the bully typically runs away in fear.  Sure sounds funny, and I admit I do chuckle at how effective it is but on the flip side I work with him on taking a breath and using his words not his screeches.

Help me Give Big to Autism by joining my flash sale

I am running a 2 day flash sale in support of Autism Sept. 16-17th.  I will be donating a portion of my commission to Autism Big Give.  Go to and make sure to choose “Autism Big Give” party in the check out process.    Each day there will be a featured scent that will offer double rewards points.  I will be posting that information on the Burn Bling Facebook fan page –

Autism is NOT a Stigma

I was told over and over “why are you going to early intervention” or “he is only 2, he is just being a boy” or “he just doesn’t like people”  WELL…  I am glad I finally stopped listening to people around me and went with my gut feeling.  So R is in the grey area of Autism so I really have no clue about children who are more on the spectrum than he is.  He is very high functioning and to someone who isn’t with him 24 hours a day he will seem fine.  But as the caregiver 24/7 I am the one who sees all these things.  I wish I would have done EI before now.  He has 3 short months with them before he turns 3 and they drop him from the program.  So, our primary focus it to get him adjusted to being in social settings with more than 3 children with out freaking out or playing in a corner by himself.  He was evaluated and it is nice to have someone who will work with him 2 days a week.  We have been blessed to be fast tracked in the system and he has been enrolled in 2 of the groups one which is run by our service advocate.  With luck they can also help get him into a good pre-school setting.  Primarily for the socialization.

For our little guy being very low level autistic is not a stigma but just a small hurdle he much work to overcome.  His social anxiety can be worked with now will hopefully help him when he is older.  Welcome to our new adventure…