A Modern Day Prince Charming

I just finished reading “My Husband is Not My Prince Charming” by Bucket List Publications, and it has inspired me to tell my story of my “Modern Day Prince Charming”

Our Story:

I was living solo in Fl when my fiancée and I met.  I had a good job, finished my masters and was working on my PhD.  He didn’t “rescue me” from anything other than being single, which I was enjoying.  I guess in a way he is my Modern Day Prince Charming.  He isn’t a fairy tale version of Prince Charming but he is my version.  He is everything I ever wanted in a man strong, fun, adventurous, giving, loving, tender, mellow, easy to talk to, goofy, sexy, nerdy (just like me) and so much more.

He is my compliment, with as many thing we have in common we have equally the same amount of things about us that are opposite from the other.  We compliment each other very well.  If I am upset he is my rock, my calming force.  That works both ways, if he is mad or frustrated I am relaxed and calming for him.  We are a team.  When I am super excited about something he is so relaxed and brings me back down to earth.  I do the same for him only I call it giving him a dose of reality.  hah

I think now in a world of independent woman the Prince Charming role has evolved into what a woman wants in a life partner.

Baby/Toddler Firsts of 2013

I am a couple of weeks behind on our “2013 milestones” but, here we go.  I am sure I have missed some milestones, but here are some big ones I can rattle off the top of my head.

Breastfed until 16.5 months, I would have gone longer but my body failed us. (bad boobies!!)

First “real” 2 word phrase – “bay kiki” (Bad Kitty)

First set of molars – January 2013 caused a trip to the ER and resulted in a double ear infection.

First “Big Boy” food- Spinach Feta Pie

First steps – Mid-June 2013 (17.5 mo old)

Recognize all Letters and point to them – 20 months old

First Letter learned and mastered – “E” 19 months old

Recognize numbers 1 – 20 and point to them – 20 months old

Recognize animals and point to them – 16 months old

By the end of 2013 he could say some animals, shapes, colors, about 50% of the alphabet, and numbers 1-10.  He can’t do them in order yet but we are working on that.

As of January 15, 2014 when asked “How old are you going to be?” or “how old are you?” he can reply “Two” and attempts to hold up 2 fingers.

The Excitement of Moving

A few months ago we decided to move.  Our target time frame is about 16 months from now.  We decided to move to be closer to family and friends.  My fiancée had a scare in September.  After everything calmed down and he was home from the hospital we talked about the what if’s.  He would like us to be close to family and friends who could help me out if anything should happen.  Home is where ever we are together, but with the little guy in tow now our priorities have changed.

I spent today looking at various apartments and places for rent online.  Some I knew of but I found one that is a hidden gem.  Has everything we would ever want.  It is a townhouse with a full basement with washer and dryer hook ups, 1 full bath up stairs and a 1/2 bath on the 1st floor, HUGE kitchen and living room, but the best thing is the private fenced in small garden backyard.  The best part is that it cost the same as what we are paying for our 1 bedroom 1 bath we have now.

Now I am super excited!!  I am looking forward to visiting in the spring so I can check it out.  It will be so nice to be around my family and have Robert grow up with his cousins and my friends kids who are the same age.  I have started organizing our stuff and we have consolidated everything we can.  ♥

Child Safety … Something We Should All Have…

Child safety is a huge issue.  Our little guy is almost 2, 25 pounds, and still rear facing.  I have had people tell me that “he will like it better if he was facing forward”, “I turned my child when they were one” and “why do you still have him rear facing”.  The fact is he LIKES rear facing.  he has always like to sit with his legs up to his chest.  Why???  I have no clue, sure doesn’t look comfortable but if he likes it why change it.  He hasn’t reached the height limit yet so I will keep him rear facing.  He will probably be the only rear facing 3-year-old I know.

Rear facing or forward facing doesn’t really matter when it comes to the what if’s…  What if you or someone who had your child is in an accident?  What happens if there isn’t anyone to speak for the baby?  I didn’t even think of this until I was researching rear/front facing topic.  I found a program called CHAD Children Have An iDentity on the Ohio EMS page.  They have a printable form that you can fill out and tape to your child’s car seat.  I figure why not put it also on the stroller or in our wallets/purse/backpack.  It is smart to have an edited version in the glove box too.

The CHAD form has a space for the child’s name, nickname, DOB, address, doctor, emergency contact other than the parents, special needs info, medications, allergies, and important phone numbers.  Here is a picture of what you can print.  Click on the picture to be linked to the Ohio EMS page that has the downloadable file.

HELLO CYBER MONDAY – I missed getting a sale up…

Well, today was a very eventful day.  I intended to get a good sale up, do some promotional stuff.  But our little guy was sick..  So very sick.  He threw up sometime last night and didn’t even cry out for me.  When I went to get him this morning I was shocked to see how much puke there was in his crib.  I immediately got him undressed and in the shower.  He was acting normal, happy and full of energy.  I got him his first shower of the day then went and cleaned up his crib and bedroom.  He was out in the living room with his daddy, followed him in the bathroom for something and projectile vomited everywhere.  OH BOY and this was the beginning to my fabulous day.  I tried calling the Dr but there was no answer so when I tried the on call service they told me the office was open.  I tried again and left a message on their voicemail.  After not getting an answer in 15 minutes and the little guy throwing up 4 more times.  I called the ER they advised me to see the pedi first.  When I didn’t hear back from the doctor’s office I drove over there.  We talked to the nurse on duty in the Dr office and she talked to our doctor who advised us to go down to the ER incase he needed to have iv fluids.

We got in the ER right away and had a room.  About 30-40 minutes after just sitting waiting the nurse came in and gave him a high dose of anti-nausea med.  Then about 20 min after that she came back and said they needed to move us to the hall.  ok, he was in his stroller so not so big of a deal.  We were out there for about 15 or so minutes when they wheeled this guy in who was sick with who knows what and smelled like he was rotting from the inside out.  When the ER Doc saw us sitting in the hall he said “get them into a room that baby shouldn’t be outside of this room” finally after another 15+ minutes we were moved to another room where after about 30 minutes I found the TV remote.  In all that time he managed to get 2 Popsicles and kept them down.  1:30 pm comes and we are finally discharged.  I was told to give him 1-2 oz every  10 – 15 minutes of pedialyte (or other non dairy beverage) he could have crackers after about 4-5 hours of keeping fluids down (I cheated he had 3 crackers sporadically and kept them down) and needed to pee at least once every 8 hours.  He had a wet diaper at 1:00 pm and a slightly damp diaper at 6:00 pm.  He was bone dry at 8:50 pm when I put him to bed for the night.  Tomorrow I will start the 1-2 oz every 10 min for a couple of hours and then see how wet he gets.  Hopefully he pees if not we will be headed to Beverly ER tomorrow since I think they are more equipped for toddlers.

What a day…  And tomorrow will come soon…  Ahhh the joys of motherhood.

Getting Close to the Time of Year We Verbally Give Thanks…

I love all the people who have really stuck by my side no matter what and for that each moment I am very thankful to have each of you in my life, you are my family.

Some of you I haven’t met in person and you have still been there for me when I needed a sounding board.
Some of you I have known practically my whole life and others for a short while.
No matter where you are in the world, near or far, you are in my heart, thoughts and prayers each moment of every day.
You are the ones who give me strength to be who I am no matter what the obstacles.
You are the ones who stand beside me and hold my hand when times get rough.
You are the ones that against all odds will be there for me as steady as a rock.
Some of you will lose contact with me yet even then you will still be in my heart like family.
Some of you will reconnect with me after years apart and a piece of my heart will heal.
Some of you will be lost forever and for that, my heart grieves for you and the loss with each moment that passes you will be missed.
This is the time of year when I verbally say “Thank You Friends, for being my Family.”

To those who have strayed from our bond
Know the door is always open,
The phone line is always clear,
Social media is accessible.
You are never out of my heart, thoughts and well wishes.
Always remember, you are loved for who you are not by the actions you take.
You are family, no matter what drifts people apart, family is forever.

❤  Many blessings to be shared with those near and far, from the depths of my heart “I Thank You”.  ❤

Having a PPD Moment … Getting Personal… Family, Heartbreak and Hope…

** DISCLAIMER **  I wrote this on Nov 15th and made it a private post.  It is a very emotional post and I wasn’t going to post it but, after talking to some of the women in my PPD group I have decided to make it public.  I am not the only one going through these emotions even though situations may be different the raw emotion expressed here is me to the core.  I will not apologize for my feelings as they are a part of who I am.  This post was written to help me heal a wound that had occurred as a result of events unknown to me, we are the ones who are living with and feeling the effects of someone else’s decisions that I can not control.  The person who looses the most is my son.   My follow-up post is GETTING CLOSE TO THE TIME OF YEAR WE VERBALLY GIVE THANKS…  where I thank everyone who is close in my heart.  **
As we get closer to making the big move.  I am laying out the cost and looking for places to live.  I like the idea of finding a nice townhouse to rent to start with and then we can take the time to find a nice house in my old school district.  And it looks like we should be able to make our move in about 18 months give or take a couple of months.  And as I think about moving I am excited to be closer to family and friends some, who I have known since I was a wee little girl.  This isn’t a case of “the grass is greener” but of “this grass just ain’t gettin’ greener.”  :/

We now live in a small(very small, the size of a town) city with a handful of my SO’s family around.  They aren’t as close-knit as my family is even with all the miles between us.  It makes me sad to be so close to family and not get to see them in so long.  I know everyone is busy with work and nuclear family time but my son has a cousin 6 weeks older than him who he hasn’t seen since Easter.  And that breaks my heart.  I always extend invites and many times never receive a reply.  My mind knows it isn’t anything personal, but my heart feels otherwise.  Oh well…  I keep the hope that we will see everyone before we move to NY but as time passes my heart grows weary and sad.

When I think about it I get so sad and then I think about how some people might think I have it easy being a stay home mom who gets to play with her child all day.  Let me say…  it is hard to find activities to entertain and educate our little guy all day, EVERY day, 7 days a week.  Some days I would love to have a child care provider I could drop him off at and then pick him up, even if just for 2 hours.  I love my son with all my heart and would do anything for him and anything to protect him but sometimes mommy needs a break too.  Yes, it is fun to watch his mind work every moment and yes it is nice to be able to do things with him.  Am I lucky??  Some days I really question if I am and I think that a family with 2 working parents have it easy being able to drop their child/children off to someone so they can have the daunting task of entertaining a toddler.  Usually those days are accompanied with the major meltdowns or tantrums from being frustrated.

Add in that I am not just a Stay At Home Mom(SAHM) but I am trying to launch a company using nap times as work times, staying up late working on various products, making tutorials, doing research and setting up a webstore.  My SO works 11.5 hours a day 5-6 days a week and when he gets home he has about 1.5 hours with our son before it is bedtime.  I am up until about 11pm almost every night working on business stuff that I can’t get done during the day.  The little guy wakes around 5 am but never after 6:15am.  In our house 6:15 is sleeping in.  So there’s not much time for sleep.

A little more than 2 months ago my SO had to be rushed to the hospital with chest pains.  I was scared out of my mind, I had no one I could really talk to other than his Mom, who is wonderful and I love her dearly, but she was only here in town for vacation.  We were very lucky it wasn’t his heart but it really put life into perspective for us.  We made the decision to move to NY so I could be closer to a tight-knit support group of family and friends.  It will be nice to be closer to the friends and family I left when I moved to Fl 15 years ago.  I miss my parents, my siblings (even though 1/2 are not in the area anymore), my friends who have stayed by my side even though we have had over 1000 miles between us, and all my nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles and cousins…  I look forward to all the play dates, family get togethers, “mommy” time, and having a network of fabulous people who I can call and say “hey, I am stressed out, can you help me out” and know that they will be there as soon as they can to lend a hand.

I will miss our family we have here in MA, of course, but with everyone working such crazy hours there aren’t enough hours in a day to squeeze in anyone but the nuclear family.  I have gotten really close with Sean’s Aunt and love spending time with her.  I will miss her tons and will have to teach her how to Skype.  I was asked today “How great is it that your little one has a cousin to play with who is the same age?”  I replied, “I don’t know, we haven’t seen them since a few days after Easter.”  The person responded “That is so sad, hope you see them soon.”  In that moment I felt my heart sink wondering if we will see them before we move.  I try to keep it all in and not let the emotions out but some days it is harder than others to mask my sadness, and today is one of those days.  Today I have thought about how much I miss all our family and friends near and far.  Some days I feel so isolated because I am a SAHM and feel as I and our family is not worthy of other’s time, like I am not good enough…  I work my butt off all day everyday to not only raise our son but to build a business of our own.

That is all the jumbled rant I have today.  I am sure getting this out and a good night sleep will do wonders to lift up my spirits.  In just over 6 hours I will have to smile and giggle my way through the day, “fake it till ya make it” philosophy.

 

New Neighbors and the Disturbances Begin…

So my non-believer in ghosts love just asked to sleep with the lights on. HAH umm I made a smart comment “I wonder how long before the new neighbors see the resident entities. (mind you he has seen and acknowledged the “ghost cat” we have.)

He says “huh?”

I reply “Didn’t I tell you about Kelly, the Virgin Mary, her rosary and the ghost woman standing over her bed one night?”

He says “aah NO!!”

I was like “oh, ok”

Then he comments “So are you going to tell me now”

… needless to say, I told him and now he is creeped out. HAHA  Something heavy and clangy dropped above us(there is nothing above us but our drop ceiling) and he exclaims “I heard a noise, I am going to get Bobby!”

I said “Bobby’s fine”

Then I get told “If he so much as sneezes I am bringing him in here with us.”

HAHAHA So much for my non-believer. ❤ I love him.  Then I reminded him of the first night we put Bobby to bed in his room alone and we heard very loud and clear “HEY!” in the baby monitor.  HAHA  He says, “we are moving ASAP”

I mumbled “you don’t think there are ghosts in NY?”

I am still silently laughing.

Road Trip Success

I had the car loaded and ready to go for our departure first thing in the morning.  I had all kinds of good stuff for us to listen to from Marbles’ Brain Beats, Katy Perry, Disney nursery rhymes, VNV Nation, Wumpscut, Dimmu Borgir, jewel’s lullabies and a bi-lingual toddler book on tape.  I learned real quick he was on with the nursery rhymes cd once by round 2 he was ready for something new.  He would sing along to just about everything.  As for activities for him to do I didn’t leave anything out.  I had everything packed from a new stuffed crab to give him if he got “crabby” to a few of his favorite toys.  I had the iPad loaded with a couple of Disney short films and Thomas the Train story collection, or so I thought.  We were about 2 hours away from our destination and we stopped at a rest area so I could pop in the video.  OH BOY was I surprised when I went to pull up Thomas and it said “Unable to load video”.  WHAT, But I tested it and it played fine at the house???  Apparently it didn’t finish downloading completely.  grrrrr  So here I was 2 hours away and my plan was derailed.  But not to fret because within about 20 minutes he fell asleep again and was out for about 40 more minutes.

He didn’t even need the movie he had his favorite monkey, his sippy cup, his cup of goldfish, and his Leap Frog “Scout” dog and he was perfectly happy the entire trip.  Only a couple of times he didn’t want to get in the car but it was nothing once I got him in and handed him Mr Monkey he was fine.  I have been blessed with a very good traveler.  Thankfully Daddy will arrive before we have to travel back home and he will ride back with us.

The next solo trip is a 24 hour trip down the coast to Florida to see the grandparents in the wintertime.  That will be the next adventure.

 

Twas the Night Before the Road Trip

Twas the night before our first epic road trip
Just mommy and an 18 month old toddler
A nice night to curl up in bed
Dream of sugar plums and fairies dancing in my head
With a big yawn and a rub of my eyes
I am sure to get a good night sleep
For in the morning I will rise to the sound of my little guy
Full of energy and ready for adventure
We will surely experience
An epic road trip
Just me and my little guy