A Modern Day Prince Charming

I just finished reading “My Husband is Not My Prince Charming” by Bucket List Publications, and it has inspired me to tell my story of my “Modern Day Prince Charming”

Our Story:

I was living solo in Fl when my fiancée and I met.  I had a good job, finished my masters and was working on my PhD.  He didn’t “rescue me” from anything other than being single, which I was enjoying.  I guess in a way he is my Modern Day Prince Charming.  He isn’t a fairy tale version of Prince Charming but he is my version.  He is everything I ever wanted in a man strong, fun, adventurous, giving, loving, tender, mellow, easy to talk to, goofy, sexy, nerdy (just like me) and so much more.

He is my compliment, with as many thing we have in common we have equally the same amount of things about us that are opposite from the other.  We compliment each other very well.  If I am upset he is my rock, my calming force.  That works both ways, if he is mad or frustrated I am relaxed and calming for him.  We are a team.  When I am super excited about something he is so relaxed and brings me back down to earth.  I do the same for him only I call it giving him a dose of reality.  hah

I think now in a world of independent woman the Prince Charming role has evolved into what a woman wants in a life partner.

Breastfeeding Wednesday – Working Mama

Cross-post from MoMWoW.org

I was contacted by Shoele of the Working Mama Project.  She has read my personal blog about breastfeeding and has shared with me her wonderful project.

I see that you write a lot about breastfeeding and think that this project might be an interesting topic for you. I have made photo project called Working Mama with focus on the beauty and nature of breastfeeding. I hope that you would like to support my project.http://igg.me/at/workingmama/
Best regards,
Shoele

She is putting together a coffee table book with photos of Mother’s breastfeeding.  I admire what she is doing as to me it seems so beautiful to see a mother breastfeeding her baby.  In other countries Breastfeeding isn’t shameful like it is made to feel here in the US.  I will admit I was a mom who was proud to breastfeed in public.  For the most part I used a cover but when the little guy grew so he didn’t like them I nursed without one.  I am excited to see Shoele’s dream of having a coffee table book come true.  Check out her video and her crowd-funding page.  Even if you don’t give, it is interesting to share in her dream.  I look forward to the release of her book.

On a personal note: I often look at breastfeeding mamas with such awe and I smile at them.  When my supply started to drop seeing a mama breastfeed with ease would make me sad because I wished breastfeeding was an easy venture for me.  Oh but was it ever hard yet so rewarding and special.  Words can’t describe the love I have for breastfeeding.  I know many moms who wanted to breastfeed but couldn’t for one reason or another.  I also know moms who never had the wish to breastfeed yet they all were supportive of my decision to breastfeed as long as possible.

In support of the Working Mama Project here is my favorite picture of breastfeeding my son.  Our youngest cat liked to lay behind our son as he breastfed until he got too big, then she would lay at my feet or on my legs.  To this day she sleeps next to his crib at night and for naps.  On occasion she will sleep in our room with us.

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My Favorite Breastfeeding Moment

My Favorite Breastfeeding Moment

Monday Movie Review – The Butler

Movie Rating ♥♥♥♥♥ (5/5)  Movie Trailer Posted below.

My MoMWoW Post for today:

Monday Movie Review – The Butler

The Baby and Me movie was canceled today so in honor of the holiday I am reviewing “The Butler“. I got it out of the RedBox this past weekend to share with my fiancée. I saw it in the theater as a Baby and Me movie and loved it.  This film is based very closely onMr. Eugene Allen‘s life.  There are only a few minor differences between the movie life of Mr Gaines and the real life of Mr. Allen.

The Butler is an excellent movie and in my opinion it should be the movie of the year.  It really helped me to get a feel for the civil rights movement.  It is amazing to see how far our country has come in the span of Mr. Gaines life.  From the poverty of being a slave picking cotton with his family to being the most respected butler in the United States.  This story had my emotions from sad to laughing a little.  The first emotional scene is when you hear his mother being raped and shortly after seeing his father murdered right in front of him when he was a boy.  The eldest woman of the house takes him in and teaches him to be a house servant. (I will not re-use their terms as it is degrading and disrespectful to everyone)  The path Mr. Gaines and his family had to take was one that shows great courage and sacrifice.  He leaves the farm when he is of age and sets out to find a better life for himself.  He gets caught breaking into a hotel pastry shop and ends up with a job there.  After a period of time there he learns about how to read people and give them what they want even before they know what they want.  Once he takes a job in DC and proves himself by working at a fancy hotel he is requested to go to the White House for the position of a Butler.  During his time as a butler in the White House he sees more changes in civil rights.  His oldest son becomes involved with the movement inspired by Martin Luther King, Jr. and takes trips on the freedom bus.  Shortly after Dr. King is assassinated the son turns to the teachings of the panthers until he finds out that they are not what he was expecting.  But, his actions came with the consequence of losing the respect of his parents and their relationship was void.  Through all the struggles the son and father end up making up after Mr. Gaines and his wife attend the State Dinner as guests of Mrs. Reagan.  During that dinner is when he realizes the two faces that the butlers have and this doesn’t set well with him.  He resigns from his position and goes to his son and they begin to mend their relationship.  When it cuts forward to the election of President Obama I realized how much it meant to the senior generation to see a half black – half white president elected to office.  They lived through the battles to be come equal and got to see something that they never dreamed possible.

This movie gets a 5 out of 5 hankie rating – Make sure you have a tissue box.  Even my fiancée teared up and he doesn’t cry over movies.  Now me on the other hand, I am a teary woman.  I love getting into movies and feeling what the characters are feeling so I cried a lot during this film.  I recommend this movie to everyone.  I also think it should be a movie that schools should have to show either in an assembly during Black History Month or sometime during their Jr. high or high school years in a history class.

Baby/Toddler Firsts of 2013

I am a couple of weeks behind on our “2013 milestones” but, here we go.  I am sure I have missed some milestones, but here are some big ones I can rattle off the top of my head.

Breastfed until 16.5 months, I would have gone longer but my body failed us. (bad boobies!!)

First “real” 2 word phrase – “bay kiki” (Bad Kitty)

First set of molars – January 2013 caused a trip to the ER and resulted in a double ear infection.

First “Big Boy” food- Spinach Feta Pie

First steps – Mid-June 2013 (17.5 mo old)

Recognize all Letters and point to them – 20 months old

First Letter learned and mastered – “E” 19 months old

Recognize numbers 1 – 20 and point to them – 20 months old

Recognize animals and point to them – 16 months old

By the end of 2013 he could say some animals, shapes, colors, about 50% of the alphabet, and numbers 1-10.  He can’t do them in order yet but we are working on that.

As of January 15, 2014 when asked “How old are you going to be?” or “how old are you?” he can reply “Two” and attempts to hold up 2 fingers.

Question of the Day: Should Children be Banned from High End Restaurants?

This post is spawned for an article from NBC Chef Grant Achatz starts Twitter debate: Should babies be banned from high-end restaurants? by Tracy Saelinger (TODAY contributor).

I don’t think they should ban babies, it is up to the parents to be respectful of others who are dining. If the baby should get agitated or upset and cry, take a breather and walk with the baby. At 8 mo my son was still Breastfeeding so a quick boob fix was all he would need to nod back off again or at least relax and be in mommy milk trance for a while. With that said, my almost 2-year-old doesn’t understand “inside” voice yet. Personally, I would never dream of bringing him to a 3 hour, 18 course meal that cost over $200 per plate and you have to wait for weeks or months for a table.

If you can afford a restaurant that expensive then you probably have a full-time live in nanny that the kids can stay with. Or at least a full-time nanny/babysitter you can ask to stay late and pay them an overtime bonus. Do babysitters cancel, sure they do but then be the respectful parent and walk out when your baby starts to cry. If you are like most Americans and you can’t “normally” afford the restaurant then it is a “special” date night and you should enjoy your spouse/significant other/whoever you are with without babies and children.

We have not had a date night since R was born. We did attempt it once when the little guy was 5 months old but we were called back before our dinner was served. We take him everywhere, he has even been to an Irish Pub!! Of course it was for a late lunch, but he had a good time sitting at the table like a big boy, no high chairs there. He is a good baby/toddler and on the rare occasion when he gets a little loud(or has a tantrum) I excuse myself and take him outside for a cool down walk. Most times people give the look of sympathy as I walk by with a mad toddler.

All in all, maybe not ban babies but if the parents don’t get off their asses and take the baby out of the restaurant then definitely have the waiter politely ask them to take the baby outside until it has calmed down and is no longer crying. It is the parents who need to be respectful of others.

The Excitement of Moving

A few months ago we decided to move.  Our target time frame is about 16 months from now.  We decided to move to be closer to family and friends.  My fiancée had a scare in September.  After everything calmed down and he was home from the hospital we talked about the what if’s.  He would like us to be close to family and friends who could help me out if anything should happen.  Home is where ever we are together, but with the little guy in tow now our priorities have changed.

I spent today looking at various apartments and places for rent online.  Some I knew of but I found one that is a hidden gem.  Has everything we would ever want.  It is a townhouse with a full basement with washer and dryer hook ups, 1 full bath up stairs and a 1/2 bath on the 1st floor, HUGE kitchen and living room, but the best thing is the private fenced in small garden backyard.  The best part is that it cost the same as what we are paying for our 1 bedroom 1 bath we have now.

Now I am super excited!!  I am looking forward to visiting in the spring so I can check it out.  It will be so nice to be around my family and have Robert grow up with his cousins and my friends kids who are the same age.  I have started organizing our stuff and we have consolidated everything we can.  ♥

Some People Suck!!

My mind is still spinning about something that happened today.  A dear friend of mine always puts other people first.  She has nothing, and when I say nothing I mean her unemployment was cut off when she was owed about 7 weeks past due pay, Her husband has been out of work thanks to the holidays and his clients going on vacations, they don’t even have money for their rent.  Their Christmas celebration was happy because of the generosity of others.  Today I was scoping out some of the Facebook boards I am on to see if there was anything else I “needed”.  I noticed my friend had some things posted for sale and then some guy she doesn’t even know and I have never seen active in the group before replies with the nastiest comment accusing her of asking for Christmas Donation gifts and then re-selling them.

ARE YOU EFF’N KIDDING ME BUDDY!!! (check out: “Christmas is a Time for Giving“)

Well, I don’t tolerate people talking crap about others and god forbid you do it about one of my friends but when you tell a blatant lie that I happen to be associated with WATCH OUT!!!  I think being a full-time Mommy has kicked the Mama Bear Instinct into over drive.  I set him straight on that real quick and tagged the moderators of the group in my comment so nothing could be twisted about me or my post.  I must pat myself on the back because I was direct about it but I was pretty nice too.

After I had that posted up I read through some of the other comments after his on her post and I can’t believe how absolutely terrible people can be.  It was like watching a bunch of middle school punks bullying another kid.  I was reading these hateful words and really wondering how people could be so mean to and about someone they never met.  My heart broke for my friend so I messaged her as soon as I finished my comment to let her know I had her back.

So here is a very nice woman trying to take care of her family and get money for rent the only way she can.  And what do people do???  bash her and make her cry.  After this she has now decided she doesn’t want to help anyone else out unless she knows them.  She has taken down her posts and has decided that she won’t sell any of the items at all.  Where does this leave her…  Thank you to the FB bullies what messages are they teaching their kids.  Are their kids as mean and nasty as they are?  How can people be so cruel?

ARRG!!!!!   MEAN PEOPLE SUCK!!!

Getting Close to the Time of Year We Verbally Give Thanks…

I love all the people who have really stuck by my side no matter what and for that each moment I am very thankful to have each of you in my life, you are my family.

Some of you I haven’t met in person and you have still been there for me when I needed a sounding board.
Some of you I have known practically my whole life and others for a short while.
No matter where you are in the world, near or far, you are in my heart, thoughts and prayers each moment of every day.
You are the ones who give me strength to be who I am no matter what the obstacles.
You are the ones who stand beside me and hold my hand when times get rough.
You are the ones that against all odds will be there for me as steady as a rock.
Some of you will lose contact with me yet even then you will still be in my heart like family.
Some of you will reconnect with me after years apart and a piece of my heart will heal.
Some of you will be lost forever and for that, my heart grieves for you and the loss with each moment that passes you will be missed.
This is the time of year when I verbally say “Thank You Friends, for being my Family.”

To those who have strayed from our bond
Know the door is always open,
The phone line is always clear,
Social media is accessible.
You are never out of my heart, thoughts and well wishes.
Always remember, you are loved for who you are not by the actions you take.
You are family, no matter what drifts people apart, family is forever.

❤  Many blessings to be shared with those near and far, from the depths of my heart “I Thank You”.  ❤

Applying High School Math to Current “Invasion” Events

Here is how to apply those high school math skills that most kids say “I will never use this in real life”.  Little did we know we use logic skills all the time.  Here is how it applies to the invasion of Syria Drama.

It makes no sense to attack Syria and defend the same people who are seen as a threat to this nation.  A bit hypocritical if you ask me.  Not to mention that China is against it and we borrow money from them all the time to keep out over paid “lawmakers” in their cozy lifestyle (among other ridiculous spending).

Common logic is:

1. China doesn’t support attacking Syria

2. The US borrows money from China

SO…since 1 and 2 are both true we can conclude:

It is also true that If the US attacks Syria then China will cut off all funding to the US.

Meaning, if we want to keep our nations strong we don’t bite the hand that feeds us!!

NEVER Trust Auto Correct When You Are Sleepy

MY AUNT: (the original post) Was going to nap with Hubby until my “smart phone” blasted me with a loud siren (like the old air raid sirens from the 50’s) . It was a dust storm warning. I checked my house & my dust was right where I left it. So I am sitting on the patio listening to the thunder & hoping for rain.
ME: I got one of those a couple months ago for a tomato in the area. I didn’t even know my phone could do that. And it isn’t even a smart phone.
MY AUNT: Dawn, you get warnings when there are “tomatoes” in the area? Lol
ME: ROTFL Yup.. sometimes it rains Ketchup haha Got to love Auto correct…
ME: I am so tired that I couldn’t even read this back to Sean without laughing so hard that he had to take my laptop and read it himself… This girl is off to bed before the little guy wakes up. LOL

❀◕ ‿ ◕❀   This wasn’t really that funny, but because I was so sleepy it was HILARIOUS!!!   ❀◕ ‿ ◕❀